No Filter, Not Bad

      

     I have been away for a bit-a dear friend was visiting from Cyprus and my writing time was limited. During her visit, however, I made an interesting discovery about myself--that old woman.

     My US friend was telling my Cypriot friend that she loved how I said what I thought, and that you knew what you were getting with me. I replied, "You mean, I have no filter." She responded that those words gave a negative connotation and that her observances were meant to be seen in a positive light. After much thought, I have decided to embrace my "no-filter-ness."

    As a younger woman, I often bit my tongue, or kept my thoughts to myself. I would present a kind, agreeable self, one who nodded her head and didn't "make waves." Years have taught me that in doing so, I was denying who I really am, what I really think. I am entitled to my thoughts when I back them up with my experience and my education. They are valid thoughts and deserve to be shared. As I was told growing up, "you can say what you like, but choose your words carefully." Thoughts, well-crafted in words, not demands or preaching, can go a long way-I believe that's where all of my years as a teacher comes in quite handy.

    Saying what I think has been empowering. The more I speak, the stronger my convictions become. I back them with information I have learned through many years of study, many years of travel, and meeting many people of all walks of life. I feel like the old, gray- haired woman in white, flowing robes sharing her wisdom. I am wise. 

    I am coming to love my un-filtered self. I believe she can do good in this world.